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Our next guest blogger is none other than the ever witty Charlotte who blogs at Memories for Later.
Advice from an experienced mother changed the way I pray, particularly how I pray for my children. While still in my early twenties and yet to even experience the joy of potty training, nurturing teenagers was far from my mind. Still, I knew my time would come, and I listened. The exact words elude me, as does the name of the speaker, but the lesson lingers still. I’d like to share it with all of you.
You can pray for your children to be safe from all harm, to be protected from every evil, to never suffer, hurt, or make mistakes -or- you can pray your children will have the experiences they individually need to develop a strong testimony of the Savior and the gospel. You can pray for the wisdom needed to nurture them through those times. Just be prepared for the consequences.
Did you know that prayer has consequences? If you don’t believe me, go pray for patience.
The second option for prayer is frightening. It takes courage to ask the Lord to send you what you need instead of what you want. More courage to ask it for yourself and your family. Years later, I found my children on the brink of the teenager years. Needless to say, I spent a lot of time on my knees asking for motherly wisdom. Not long after beginning those prayers, I found myself in a different state, far from my friends, my family and my deeply loved house which hadn’t yet sold. In the middle of a harsh New England winter, we stayed in a rented, uninsulated, poorly furnished, dishwasherless summer home. My husband was working horrendous hours and the kids were not adjusting to the new place. As I hung laundry for a family of eight in the basement because the dryer was broken, my heart cried out, “Why are we HERE? Why must we all be so miserable?” and at that moment, the answer came: “This, THIS, is the answer to your prayer. Stop complaining. Start learning the wisdom you asked for, the wisdom you need.”
Did I say to pray for patience if you want to learn about the consequence of prayer? Try praying for wisdom.
Moroni taught we needed two things when we ask the Lord for things in prayer: “ye shall ask with a sincere heart, with real intent” (Moroni 10:4). It is hard to have a sincere heart when you pray for what is needed and not what is wanted. It is sometimes even harder to really intend to act on the answers. I think it takes a lot of practice and experience to pray for the ability to truly nurture our children in the way that is needed.
I’ve learned that if I can’t quite pray WITH a sincere heart and real intent, it helps to pray FOR a sincere heart and real intent. Just be prepared for the consequences.
Like I mentioned in the beginning, this older mother’s talk changed my perspective; I use the term “older” loosely as I believe she was about the age I am now. After listening to her I realized that, when it comes to motherhood, I did not want to ask for an easy path, I wanted the necessary one. That doesn’t mean I don’t pray for my children’s suffering to be lessened, that I relish the hard times or mistakes they make. I just accept that sometimes the pain is necessary to learn the lessons and testimonies we all need.
After reading this wonderful post I realize you may be wondering why I used the word witty to describe Charlotte. Go read her blog, especially Goldilocks and the Bears are a Bunch of Liars, and you’ll understand why. ☺
Hello, my name is Charlotte and I really did have six children in 10 years. How did I manage to stay sane? I had 6 kids before I turned 30! Obviously, I’ve lost my mind. When I’m not blogging at Memories for Later, I can be found Sudokuing, reading, enjoying the beach, and embracing the craziness that is my life. Judging from appearances, I also enjoy cleaning bathrooms, running after kids, memorizing Dr. Suess books, and telling children to shush at the library.
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