The assignment this week:
What myths have you overcome in your life? What misperceptions have you had that you realize now are wrong? And most importantly, what are you doing about changing those myths and misperceptions in your life and the lives of those around you?
In thinking over what to write for this post, I have come to one very certain realization.
Really! I was taught the opposite of those myths listed up there. I never felt that women were inferior or had to be a certain size or shape to be beautiful, or that a woman needed to work in a career to be somebody. Because of the way my parents interacted with each other and for each other I knew from their examples more than from their words that women hold a very special place in society.
The myth I have had to overcome is one of my own making. . . .because I could do and can do so many things I should do them all right now. I should be a SUPERWOMAN. Go to college, obtain a degree, be a wife, be a mother, teach piano lessons, teach my own children, sew all of their clothes, garden, can the produce, keep the house spotless – the list goes on and on and on. I was in a very literal sense trying to be
Shortly after my fifth daughter was born, I realized I was just wearing myself completely out. Though I used to enjoy doing everything I was coming to dread it all because it was draining my energy. I was teaching piano in the afternoons and LOVING it. But it left no time to focus on and prepare for our homeschool the next day. I was also trying to gather my own curriculum and supplies. It was something I thoroughly enjoyed! But that took a major amount of time too trying to figure out everything for each child on different grade levels. There were other things happening too but those two were the major ones.
Something had to give.
And I didn’t want it to be my sanity.
“Women today are encouraged by some to have it all: money, travel, marriage, motherhood, and separate careers in the world. For women, the important ingredients for happiness are to forge an identity, serve the Lord, get an education, develop your talents, serve your family, and if possible to have a family of your own.
“However, you cannot do all these things well at the same time. You cannot eat all of the pastries in the baking shop at once. You will get a tummyache. You cannot be a 100-percent wife, a 100-percent mother, a 100-percent Church worker, a 100-percent career person, and a 100-percent public-service person at the same time. How can all of these roles be coordinated? I suggest that you can have it sequentially.
“Sequentially is a big word meaning to do things one at a time at different times. The book of Ecclesiastes says: “To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under … heaven.” 12 There are ever-increasing demands on women that challenge their traditional role of caregivers. But as women, the roles of wife and mother are in the center of your souls and cry out to be satisfied. Most women naturally want to love and be loved by a good man and to respond to the God-given, deepest feelings of womanhood—those of mother and nurturer. Fortunately, most women do not have to track a career like a man does. They may fit more than one interest into the various seasons of life.” (James E. Faust, How Near to the Angels, April 1998)
There was my answer. I needed to focus on what my role is at this particular time in my life – being a wife and a mother. I jumped off the hamster wheel while it was still turning getting a little bruised and beat up but it felt great! Slowly I have learned to simplify, keep my priorities in order, and stop comparing myself to others.
“We women have a lot to learn about simplifying our lives. We have to decide what is important and then move along at a pace that is comfortable for us. We have to develop the maturity to stop trying to prove something. We have to learn to be content with what we are.” ~Marjorie Pay Hinckley~
It is enough to know that my family thinks I am great just the way I am.
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